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Of all the unimaginable aspects of grief, there is one thing we hear people say time and again that they really didn’t expect: physical grief symptoms. I went through every emotion. Then I remembered that I had felt like this before when my dad had passed a way. I recently developed massive body spasms and cramps….joint pain and muscle pain…i was sure i was dying. My own deep sorrow is helped by knowing he is no longer suffering. Now I’m thinking about leaving. It still doesn’t stop the pain. It put a lot of how I was feeling into perspective. I was going home and crying inconsolably while curled up in a ball, I couldn’t hold down food, my weight was going down, back up, then down again. “Police said he’s ok though”. With all you have been through, and your feelings of isolation and loneliness, a support group might be a good idea for both learning to live after so much loss, but also connecting with others. I hope your love gives you solace and you find happiness with Mr. Tooth again some day. By the time she died she had lost every one of her faculties. I lost my dad a week and and I feel it so deeply. This is the hardest thing I have ever been through. I was so much happier at home, sitting with my memories while the kids are at school… but I know I have to stand up and keep going. II told my family then fell on the floor and screamed. Grief is a very , very difficult process. I’ve stopped crying for the moment that I’ve been writing. I needed to know this that others suffer too and maybe I’m not headed for my own death. Wishing you the best. I still function sometimes as if I am in a dream or a fog, it still seems unreal. I thought this is the sign that it’s time and scheduled a hospice vet to come to the house. I keep on thinking about the things that won’t happen like my mom being at my wedding some day or the fact that my moms dream doll house that she was going to build for her far away “future grandchildren” will never be built. I know my dad finally gets to be with my little brother, and that brings me comfort. No appetite and feel weak and shaky. If it was not for my faith in Jesus and knowing that we will be together again, I could not make it. Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. My brother was with the 101st Airborne in Vietnam. I have a wonderful network of friends that support me that are my shoulders to cry on, but sometimes I feel as if my grieving is a burden to them, yet they say that would never happen, but they havent gone through anything like this before. We were only 16 months apart, so I feel like I lost all of my childhood memories. I’m tired and don’t feel like learning another job, but the timing of this added stress seems wrong to me. Her main artery from her heart to her brain was completely blocked. I just lost my mom a little over a week and a half ago on March 28. That was so horrible not being able to be by his side when he passed away but I’m also glad I didn’t have to see him die I don’t know that I could have handled that either. So I have to be strong and get well for my son and for them. I can not accept he is gone. I feel empty. We are more aware this time of the toll that grief can take on us but we feel like we were just coming to terms with our first loss and now we are starting all over. I had to put him down after 14 years because of cancer. I’m trying to act like I’m fine, I’m not. It did the opposite. I cried a few times on thanksgiving day and the next day I stayed in bed all day because I was so tired. It can be terribly hard to seek care when we are suffering, but your dentist understands and wants to help you! It has been 7 months that my husband of 30 years passed away. However, I was somewhat "forced to see the light", when I noticed that every time I cried to her, something unbelievable would happen. I’ve felt numb and constantly on autopilot. Tips: Food is connected to both physical and emotional health, so getting this in check can be helpful. Besides the continual crying, I’ve had constant stomach pain . I´m on sickleave and have no family nor pets to tend to. Doreen  October 14, 2018 at 10:11 pm Reply. I have moments where I don’t think I can take it all and feel very overwhelmed by things. I will never see her, talk to her, nor laugh with her again. These two women were my air, my reason for living.. It was/is the only thing that calmed/calms me. Tips: Improving focus can be tough, even when grief isn’t involved. I want to add my sweet cat of 17 years died shortly after I arrived to my daddy’s house. 5½ years ago I lost my wife, my greatest love, to metastatic colon cancer. The other, Jake, was adopted 2 years ago but loved him no less. It was an unexpected shock. For most people, this slowly improves with time. We are forced to go on without our love one(s). He always greeted me with a warm smile and a hug. Sometimes I’m ok, then I start to breakdown. We are in this together – it’s not easy, but there it feels good when you can feel the light again. I’m glad to hear that you have a good support system and that you are doing your best to stay engaged with the world. I thought I was going crazy. After losing both my parents and husband within 12 months of each other, I thought I needed to re-invent myself, but I was wrong. !” “DIED? Just yesterday I learned that the actual mourning for a spouse is more typically seven or eight years. I lost my Daddy Jan 31st of 2019 (this year). I lost my mum yesterday. Thank you, Kathy  December 29, 2018 at 4:21 pm Reply, hi Julie? He lived a good life. Karen I feel your pain. I hope everyone does feel better. Even 2 1/2 years later. It’s a normal response to a great loss. Several months later my stepfather died . I know my dad is with the Lord now. Sending you hugs and strength at this emotionally and physically draining time. You’ve never experienced anything like this Before and you’re trying to ground yourself. He has worked a lot in my home without any honour or respect. On that day of course he was ravenous for food and when the vet arrived he clung to me in a way he never had before. I wish you well. She was perfectly fine and then went to nap on the futon – moments later I noticed something was going wrong, she was clearly in trouble and not breathing right, her body was going limp. The lack of knowing what is happening has been….Hell! Karolina Eriksson  February 5, 2020 at 9:31 am Reply. ❤️❤️. So far, I have 2 notebooks packed full of little "hellos" from my Mom, and "God" (I do not claim to know which religion is correct- I intuitively feel none of them are, yet they all contain a little bit of truth…The universal principles outlined within all of them are similar. But it hurts so bad to know that I will never kiss his cheek again. One year later almost done settling affairs, but still in shock, emotional/physical pain and anguish. So, we do recommend you discuss with your doctor any symptoms that you find concerning. I have been speaking with a therapist and Lifeline, however sometimes in the night the memories and flashbacks I try to put out of my head, overwhelm me. I’ve already dealt with depression, just not like this. I lost my husband 4 weeks ago to cancer and septic infection and I feel like my world has lost its shine. Today it seems to be worse than it has been in a long time. I initially had trouble sleeping which thankfully is better now. I threw paint at canvas and it was no more that a journal of pain. It was like she was in a trance or something the EMTs worked on her for a good 20 minutes before they decided to take her to the hospital but they didn’t let me ride with them to there. I lost my husband to Stage 4 pancreatic cancer on June 29th. and he was a very very dear friend of mine we were very very close. By far the worst feeling is panic which seems to show up less often but when it does I feel absolutely overwhelmed. I kept thinking of her as the date approached, and decided to have a private birthday party in her memory. If you can’t afford a massage, check to see if there is a local massage school in your area – they often need practice clients so you can get a massage for a deep discount or free. That said, we are not doctors and your health is very specific to you. But I’m grieving for the lose of my Dog beloved dog Bear. I keep grinding my teeth, both asleep and awake and they are getting very sensitive. I cry at the drop of a hat, I am tired all the time. There is plenty of research showing that stress in general, and grief specifically, can take a toll on the immune system. I spent Christmas and New Years eve alone in bed. She is 15, smart, pretty, athletic. I have been betrayed by both my husband and his mother, whom I supported through her cancer. Wishing you all the best. Amie words are not enough for me to express how sorry I am for your loss of your Darling precious child. I don’t know. He will be deeply missed and forever remembered. taktsubo cardiomyopathy:broken heart syndrome.It can leave damage to the heart.Check the link…you’ll understand: https://mobile.abc.net.au/news/2018-03-08/heartbreak-syndrome-and-takotsubo-are-real-for-heart-disease/9523662 Grief is a stressor!Don’t stay alone with this.Write and talk it out…Find people and pets to hug and pet-well the animals…not the people!LOL!Surround yourself with healthy people and healthy food.Go to the doc. I feel like I handled it as well as can be expected, but I have the same fatigue you describe. I was really worried but optician reassured me it wasn’t physical and it has gradually improved again, but it was one aspect I wasn’t expecting. I have been reading books on grieving written by people who have lost loved ones. We lost someone very dear and close to our hearts and that is the most terrible thing that can happen to anyone. I regularly told my mom I loved her and she knew it so I don’t feel that I left anything unsaid. Nicole Schofield  August 30, 2018 at 9:06 pm Reply. Now, I am tired often and nap a lot. He had a cough, they think a virus attacked his heart, and he was on life support for 19 days. I am not the one who died. The doctors believe it was a blood clot. Mark Mandel  March 24, 2017 at 12:28 pm Reply. One has even file complaints against me because I asked about some time off he took that I didn’t remember approving. I was on Advair and albuteral inhaler. My older sister passed away on December 12 2019 and I’ve been having a really hard time. Fran Marshall  January 13, 2020 at 8:35 am Reply. I am scared. Still, I am living proof that there is something great at work behind the scenes- and without this acknowledgement, I would not be okay right now. It shoots down both legs into my feet. sometimes i go and look at our text messages. I’ve put on 60 lbs, can’t sleep, can’t concentrate, have panic attacks in the middle of most nights. Hope we can heal eventually Cindy. They’re teenagers and can feed themselves so they’ll just have to deal with it. I lost my father Nov 25, 2019 and my mother Jan 3rd 2020, the very morning after I had buried my father. Grief is grief. But, since that awful day, my life has changed and major miracles have begun to unfold. After he passed I started having neck and back pain and pain in the knees. Seek help if you need it!! I’m trying so hard to make myself move on because I have another daughter, Shea, younger sister to my angel, and 2 granddaughters(youngest da. I called my doctor and have an appointment to get some short term disability started and have a counseling appt on Saturday. To do anything. I I lost my my mom suddenly just over a year ago and I feel so lost, confused all those feelings you are similar how ur describing. 7/22/17, My amazing, brilliant, funny, loving, 44 year old husband took too many sleeping pills, which made him loopy, and shot himself in the head through a pillow lying next to me in bed. I’m not ready to say a prayer of thanks for the last 12 years of happiness Thor brought to our lives, yet. He died of sepsis from a UTI. However, a grave medical error with his medicines caused his death, just as dramatically, two months later. I can’t seem to remember the 10 years we spent together after I rescued her from the street. I’ve tried my very best over the years to do everything I know humanly possible to get along to no avail. He had hydrocephelus. I nursed her in a private room at hospital as she couldn’t be moved. Losing my mother had been a hundred times worse than any other loss, which includes my brother and sister. My sister had been the center of her world and had always been with her. I know others have gone through this. When my father died 8 years ago, I knew that I truly loved him and that I was going to miss him like crazy but the loss of my mother, because our relationship wasn’t good, seems to complicate things so much more. If I cry I stop myself now after a minute or two. apart from grieving the guilt of putting him there is killing me. It does seem to help somewhat. At that time I had been a smoker for at least for 2 year. Losing all those you loved, and who loved you unconditionally, is life changing, shattering, soul destroying. I just don’t know how to get over this. We have had a very conflicted relationship over the years, and I am an only child. She would always tell me that when she is gone don’t think that I don’t have a purpose in my life or I can’t live to go on without her because “I will be with the Lord you know where I will be and when it is your time you will be with the Lord, your grandma, and me. I threw up multiple times in the night and this morning I couldn’t do anything but gag because my stomach is empty. I list my Mum just over 2 years ago. I have empathy for you. I came upon this site after searching for physical responses to grief. I lost my mom 1 year and 3 months back, in a shocking and devastating way which was an accident, train accident, 40m away from home in Romania.. She was crossing the railways when train from a curve came with 120 km/h, she didn’t have time to pass. And do I drag myself out of bed each morning with renewed hope that, maybe, today I will “be over it”, only to lose interest by midday? But when I said in frustration that they should just give me enough IV morphine to kill me., they decided to keep me as in inpatient in the psych unit. I feel like I have been sleeping for the 4 years and I just woke up. most people that i know get their parents for 50 ish years, i had her for merely 17. i found this article comforting, and knowing that this is a relatively normal part of grief is helpful. In the last 10 years i have had 11 losses. I loved her, my dad and my sister so much I could never bear to leave them so I never left home. Wishing her a happy 75th. Hair has thinned and grayed and is falling out. The loss I have now without her is so painful. I was so close to them. Widowed  April 10, 2020 at 3:58 pm Reply. Hi Kyle, I can relate to what you say about eyes. It kills me to think about his last few days. Thank you for helping me find this page. I used to be very active but now a 30 minutes walk would drain the life out of me. Time will help but Its difficult to see that right now. I knew when he was going to die because I heard his voice in my head tell me he GOT to go HOME. Somehow, in this very moment, it helped me writing this down. When I do go to sleep I tend to wake up in the middle of night. As I’m scared if I think too much about all the death over the last year. Its hard for me to go back to work. If you don’t see this improving, talk to your doctor to make sure nothing else is going on! I could never have guessed how complex grief was in actuality, both emotionally and physically. It wasn’t supposed to be a dangerous operation so she told me not to be scared. I know this isn’t a person, but I had to put my forever cat down on 2/27. Cassandra Ortega  September 3, 2018 at 10:36 pm Reply. I knew all of this was normal from the hospice booklets and my doctor confirmed it. He doesn’t help out and when he does it is supposed to be a big deal. I didn’t dream for 10 months. Cat, my deepest sympathies to you as well. But I’m sure it will happen. I try to take a nap every afternoon just to pass the time as the days are so long, and so sad, and so boring, I don’t communicate well with others, and I’ve fractured a relationship with my sister after having lashed out at her: even though she was the only support I had for funeral preparations, and I couldn’t have done it all without her. Shortly after she died, I began having aches and pains in my joints and muscles. He drove all the big wreckers and did some amazing things with the things he towed. So there isn’t much of a support group. To see her empty chair breaks me apart. My wife of 35 years died of Pancreatic Cancer June 18th. We just clicked and could talk about anything. Grievers often tell us, “It feels like I can’t remember anything!” From losing keys to forgetting to pick kids up from daycare, to missing meetings or appointments, and on and on, forgetfulness can start to feel like a new way of life. 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